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Watching Her Wake Up on Her Deathbed. Mothers Day 2019

UPDATE. WOMEN are not responsible for the English Language. On this Mother's Day 2019, let's all reflect on how WOMEN are held accountable for communications of all kinds.

Take for example my own Mother who died in 2012 just weeks shy of her 70th birthday.

Mom never went to College. With her highest-level of attained education being her High School Diploma, Mom did NOT "Speak in Code." Mom did NOT speak in innuendo & implications.

Mom lived her whole life NOT insulting others in "Coded Language."

Blaming WOMEN for the English Language IS systemic, institutionalized MISOGYNISTIC DISCRIMINATION against WOMEN.

Happy Mother's Day Mom???

UPDATE:. The 19th Amendment gave Women the Right to Vote but it doesn't go far enough. Let's celebrate 100 years of voting rights by ratifying the Equal Rights Amendment in 2019.

With the protection of the Equal Rights Amendment, Pop Culture would not be able to declare "Open Season" on women as has been done for DECADES in Music, in Movies & in TV Advertising.

Clear Need for Equal Rights Amendment. MISOGYNISTIC TV Attack Ads Are NOT OK

Today, March 19th is the start of "March Madness" so I thought I would highlight WHY we do still need the Equal Rights Amendment by looking at the MADEA Franchise' latest offering " A Madea Family Funeral"

PEOPLE are INDIVIDUALS - we are NOT our actors, good or bad.

Stuff like this does not improve our lives or make our lives better. In fact, it pisses people off, Madea.

When the viewing public sees or hears something that inspires feelings of anger, will the expression of that anger be Positive or Negative?

When we stand up & say "that's not right," we take positive action to right a wrong.

Case in point: much beloved local TV News anchor Gina Gaston on ABC 13. I can't believe she's any too happy about her NAME BEING GASTON.


My Mother is buried at GASTON MEMORIAL PARK in Gastonia, North Carolina.

I'm not too happy about all of that GAS myself. In fact I was pretty angry, more like FURIOUS when I wrote this piece below, MADEA.

So what will we do with this information?

We express this in a positive way & TEACH HOW TO RIGHT A WRONG.

People are NOT their Actors.

People are NOT their POLITICIANS.

PEOPLE are Individuals.

Learn to treat PEOPLE as Individuals.

Learn to treat INDIVIDUALS with RESPECT.


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One of the saddest things I’ve ever lived through other than Hurricane Harvey was watching my mother’s revelation of how WOMEN ARE VICTIMIZED BY LANGUAGE just prior to her death in August of 2012.


People are INDIVIDUALS & no one person is single-handedly responsible for their respective language, yet WOMEN are held ACCOUNTABLE for the English Language every day. “Oh, it’s that GIRL, - that ENGLISH-SPEAKING WHITE GIRL.”

Watching Her Wake Up on Her Deathbed

Today is September 4th – 9/4: Labor Day. My Mom was a Labor Day baby.

Just when we thought we had made it through AUGUST, the “gassiest month of the year,” we arrive at “dead people month.”


One more time, NOBODY IN MY FAMILY ever acted this way, spoke this way, communicated this way.

When we learn things, learning what NOT TO DO is equally as important as LEARNING what to do.

I began waking up to this knowledge in the mid-1990s & tried to tell the rest of the family what was going on. Five years after the death of my mother, it would be easy to sit back & say “I TOLD YA SO,” but there is NOTHING TO GLOAT ABOUT BEING RIGHT.

It is stunning. It is insulting. And it is WRONG.

Misogynistic Language

WOMEN have been VICTIMIZED by Language, Communication & all of those insulting translations.

I come from a long line of BROWN WOMEN. My mother’s mother was born Brown. In Gastonia. I was born in SALISBURY. BURRIED??? Sa-lis-BURY???

Was I really born BROWN, GASSY & BURRIED???




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